Have you ever looked around at work and wondered whether you have reached the end of the road? You put in the hours, deliver what is expected of you and perhaps even go beyond the call of duty, yet somehow the next rung on the career ladder remains frustratingly out of reach. The obvious answer Read More…
True alignment in connection doesn’t happen when you finally find someone who never makes a mistake; it happens when you finally stop abandoning yourself to keep them. We have been culturally conditioned to believe that relationships are a constant audition—that if we just try hard enough, perform well enough, and smooth over enough rough edges, Read More…
Many people assume that setting boundaries means becoming difficult, selfish or emotionally distant. In my clinical work, I have found that the opposite is often true. Healthy boundaries are not walls that shut people out; they are healthy limits that allow relationships to become safer, more respectful and more sustainable. I have worked with many Read More…
A young professional recently sat across from me and said something that stayed with me. ‘I thought moving to Lagos would solve everything. I changed my environment, found a stable job, and started rebuilding my life. But I realised I had brought my emotional wounds with me.’ On the surface, she appeared to be doing Read More…
A Quiet Turning Point If you are just coming across this column, it offers a real-life look into how anxiety unfolds and, more importantly, how it can begin to shift over time. Over the past weeks, we have been following Tolani (not her real name), a young woman in her early twenties, learning to navigate Read More…
Last week, I introduced you to Tolani, whose story quietly mirrors the lived reality of many young adults navigating uncertainty, pressure, and emotional overwhelm in our fast-paced urban spaces. She had left school abruptly, her routine disrupted, her sense of direction shaken. What followed was not just anxiety, but something deeper—an exhausting cycle of trying Read More…
For many people like Aisha, the journey forward is not about becoming a completely different person, but about gradually building a new relationship with themselves. Awareness and Self-Trust The first step is awareness. Recognizing patterns such as withdrawing when things feel too close, delaying action due to fear of failure, or relying heavily on external Read More…
I remember the night you told me you were bipolar. You said it so casually as if you were telling me your favourite colour, and I, in my ignorance, didn’t think much of it. I had never heard the term before—not in a way that made it real. I thought it was just a word, Read More…
We’ve heard a good number of people say they’re ready to settle down and so need to, or that they are just looking for a partner. One aspect often overlooked is the aspect of preparedness. Are you truly ready for marriage? You see, marriage is more of a journey than it is a destination. In Read More…
My dear single ladies, I decided to pen these thoughts I’d always had because there’s the need to keep saying it.Love is a beautiful thing and a good marriage, is something worth experiencing in one’s lifetime. But I have noticed that these two (love and marriage) always come easily to those who don’t think so Read More…
