A Quiet Turning Point If you are just coming across this column, it offers a real-life look into how anxiety unfolds and, more importantly, how it can begin to shift over time. Over the past weeks, we have been following Tolani (not her real name), a young woman in her early twenties, learning to navigate Read More…
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When Avoiding Anxiety Becomes the Real Struggle
Last week, I introduced you to Tolani, whose story quietly mirrors the lived reality of many young adults navigating uncertainty, pressure, and emotional overwhelm in our fast-paced urban spaces. She had left school abruptly, her routine disrupted, her sense of direction shaken. What followed was not just anxiety, but something deeper—an exhausting cycle of trying Read More…
Holding Back While Longing for More (2): A Look at Avoidant Attachment Patterns
For many people like Aisha, the journey forward is not about becoming a completely different person, but about gradually building a new relationship with themselves. Awareness and Self-Trust The first step is awareness. Recognizing patterns such as withdrawing when things feel too close, delaying action due to fear of failure, or relying heavily on external Read More…
I finally understand bipolar disorder
I remember the night you told me you were bipolar. You said it so casually as if you were telling me your favourite colour, and I, in my ignorance, didn’t think much of it. I had never heard the term before—not in a way that made it real. I thought it was just a word, Read More…
So, you want to get married?
We’ve heard a good number of people say they’re ready to settle down and so need to, or that they are just looking for a partner. One aspect often overlooked is the aspect of preparedness. Are you truly ready for marriage? You see, marriage is more of a journey than it is a destination. In Read More…
What to do till love finds you
My dear single ladies, I decided to pen these thoughts I’d always had because there’s the need to keep saying it.Love is a beautiful thing and a good marriage, is something worth experiencing in one’s lifetime. But I have noticed that these two (love and marriage) always come easily to those who don’t think so Read More…
I Now Know You’re a Narcissist
I never thought I’d say this, but here we are. After all these months, I finally got it. You told me yourself, right before you walked away and never looked back. You said, “I’m a narcissist, but you’ll never understand.” I didn’t understand that day, but I do now. And let me tell you, learning Read More…
Good reasons to end that relationship
The thing about the reasons I’m about to share is this: initially, they never seem strong enough until you’re neck deep and suffocating in a relationship. But it’s always good to notice it immediately and walk away. And even if you’re neck deep already, it’s never too late to take a detour and change course. Read More…
I Don’t Hate Valentine’s Day Anymore
Valentine’s Day is approaching, and I am proud of my new state of mind. At first, I was surprised, I wondered if I was pretending to feel good when Valentine’s days are always filled with gloom and what could have been. Valentine’s Day used to be the worst day of all the celebratory days in Read More…
Managing Stress vs. Eliminating Stress
Everything around you, within and outside your life can be a stressor, from relationships with colleagues and bosses to family members and even friends. All too frequently, most of the information being shared out there teaches us to manage stress rather than get rid of it. You see, stress cannot be managed. If you do, Read More…