In the concluding part of this three-part series, we will be discussing the Sigma Personality Type.
The Sigma Personality combines the best traits from other personality types and turns them into something unique and powerful.
A Sigma thrives in solitude—that’s where they draw their strength. They are not conformists and do not follow societal rules; rather, they go beyond them.
The Sigma personality is full of contrasts and surprises. They are difficult to understand because of their elusive nature. Call it mystery, if you will. Quiet but bold, self-reliant yet flexible. Independent yet connected. Mysterious yet open. Grounded yet searching. They can be anything at any time, depending on what the occasion calls for.
While the Alpha personality is comfortable in the spotlight and leading a group, the Sigma personality is a quiet leader within a social group. Sigmas do not lead by dictating to others but by guiding themselves with honesty and determination. They do not care for the spotlight. They are strategic thinkers and analysts, paying attention to details often overlooked. They don’t need the spotlight to shine—they shine on their own.
They read people well, and many find this singular trait unsettling, especially those with cruel intentions. They never miss such things as nervousness in a voice, fidgeting hands, flickering eyes, or subtle changes in tone. They always seek to uncover what drives people and see through pretense.
Where others try to fit in, Sigmas stand out. They just think and act differently. You might not easily notice them in a group, but you will feel their presence.
They are stubborn introverts. Their quietness is not a sign of weakness but a reflection of their strength. They are comfortable in their silence and are never under pressure to make small talk or fill awkward gaps in conversation. They are tough and handle pressure better than other personalities.
There are four stages of the Sigma personality, each aimed at personal growth, self-discovery, and empowerment.
- Being an Introvert: At this stage, they may appear shy and distant, but it’s really them enjoying their own company. Here, they observe, listen, and think.
- The Independent Adventurer: In this stage, they explore the world through books, travel, and intellectually stimulating conversations. It is their learning stage, where they view solitude as an opportunity for self-examination and personal development.
- The Self-Reliant Planner: At this stage, they take charge of their life and time, making their own choices and following their own path. They are constantly thinking ahead and finding ways to tackle problems.
- Becoming an Empowered Sigma: This is the stage where they fully accept who they are. They no longer seek approval or validation from external forces.
Their introverted nature often leads to them being underestimated by Alphas until the Sigmas leave an impression that’s hard to forget. In fact, Sigmas are the only ones who can effectively handle Alphas—whether in positive or negative ways.
Sigmas are like a puzzle waiting to be solved. Hard to predict, they always leave you wondering. They set their own boundaries, allowing only as much access as they permit. As leaders, they react quickly and decisively to situations and are fast learners because they thoroughly immerse themselves in the process of learning.
They always seek to form deep and meaningful connections, which makes them protective of their space and selective about who they allow into their circle. Since they are constantly learning and improving, they are not in competition with others—only with themselves. To them, success means constant growth and being better today than they were yesterday.
Their quest to understand life makes them curious and constantly questioning. Having people around them who can teach and patiently share knowledge is essential.
If you’re a Sigma, which of these stages are you in?
- Joy Mfon Essien is an Entrepreneur and the CEO, of Discover Essence Media, Millionaire Woman Soapworks and Delicioso Foods. Writer, TV presenter and producer, Wellness Coach and mom of two.
I find that the Sigma traits resonates with me. I read people well, I don’t care for the spotlight, I pay attention to details etc. I am at the 4th stage of being a Sigma.
Great read. Always a delight to read your article.