There are many people in Lagos waking up every morning already exhausted before the day even begins. They drag themselves through traffic, meetings, parenting, deadlines, religious activities, social obligations and endless expectations, while quietly wondering why their body feels heavier than it should. A woman I recently worked with, whom I will call Amaka (not Read More…
A Quiet Turning Point If you are just coming across this column, it offers a real-life look into how anxiety unfolds and, more importantly, how it can begin to shift over time. Over the past weeks, we have been following Tolani (not her real name), a young woman in her early twenties, learning to navigate Read More…
Last week, I introduced you to Tolani, whose story quietly mirrors the lived reality of many young adults navigating uncertainty, pressure, and emotional overwhelm in our fast-paced urban spaces. She had left school abruptly, her routine disrupted, her sense of direction shaken. What followed was not just anxiety, but something deeper—an exhausting cycle of trying Read More…
Tolani (not her real name) is in her early twenties—vibrant, intelligent, and once known among her friends as the lively one. The kind of person who showed up, laughed easily, and filled spaces with energy. But over time, something began to shift in ways she could not fully explain. It started subtly: a little more Read More…
A Look at Avoidant Attachment Patterns The Hidden Struggle Beneath a Functional Life Aisha (not her real name) is a 33-year-old woman who, by most standards, is doing well. She is educated, financially independent, and skilled in her craft. She shows up at work, meets expectations, and maintains a steady life. Yet beneath this functioning Read More…
