As we mark Men’s Mental Health Month, I have chosen to dedicate this month’s column to exploring some of the common yet often overlooked mental health struggles faced by men in our society. While conversations around mental health have increased in recent years, many men continue to suffer in silence, often unnoticed until the consequences Read More…
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“Lagos Don Turn Inspection Centre”
There are weeks when Lagos behaves like a normal city. This was not one of them. Everywhere seemed to be under inspection. Security agencies were raiding illegal detention centres. Road vandals were being rounded up. Environmental officials were chasing cart pushers. Restaurants were being sealed. And somewhere in the middle of all this, ordinary Lagosians Read More…
How To Successfully Woo a Lady: What Men Should Know
In a modern dating landscape often dominated by “urgent” displays of wealth or formulaic, aggressive pursuit, the finer arts of romance can sometimes get lost in translation. For many Nigerian men, the default playbook has historically leaned heavily on either intense persistence (the classic “chopping stone” method) or immediate financial posturing. While stability is always Read More…
What Will Still Matter Then
Colossians 3:1–4 There is something about the pace of life that can make eternity feel distant. In a city like Lagos, life moves quickly. There is always something demanding attention—work to complete, bills to settle, responsibilities to carry, plans to make, challenges to overcome. And because life is so immediate, it is easy to become Read More…
No Way Forward Without Restructuring
We are on the march again—27 years after our return to democratic governance and three years into the tenure of the Tinubu administration. Centrifugal forces are on the ascendancy. Terrorism is being exported across regional boundaries. Two sections of the nation which were famous for either republicanism or monarchy before colonialism are befuddled by the Read More…
When Saying “Yes” to Everyone Is Hurting Your Mental Health: The Healing Power of Healthy Boundaries
A few years ago, a young professional I will call Tunde sat in my office exhausted, frustrated, and emotionally drained. On paper, he appeared successful. He had a good job, supportive friends, and a close-knit family. Yet he constantly felt overwhelmed. His phone never stopped ringing. Family members relied on him for emotional support, financial Read More…
“Rain Dey Fall, Port Dey Burst, PDP Dey Suspend… Lagos No Dey Rest”
By Friday evening, Mama Love’s Canteen and Bar looked like a refugee camp for weather survivors. All week, Lagos had been soaked. Rain had fallen with the kind of seriousness that makes every Lagosian suddenly become amateur hydrologist. From Lekki to Surulere, from Ajegunle to Ikoyi, residents had spent the week staring suspiciously at drainage Read More…
Creamy Pesto Shrimp Pasta: A Restaurant-Quality Dish Ready in 30 Minutes
Creamy pesto shrimp pasta is a perfect combination of a rich, indulgent sauce, tender shrimp, and silky pasta. This dish is easy enough for weeknight dinners but elegant enough to impress family and friends. The homemade pesto makes a vibrant herbal flavor, while the cream and parmesan create a rich, velvety sauce. Many readers describe Read More…
Staying Clean in a Polluted World
Genesis 35:1–4 There are some kinds of pollution that are easy to recognise. You see them in traffic-filled streets, in smoky air, in blocked drainage systems, and in environments where neglect has become normal. Physical pollution is visible. It announces itself. But the thing is this: there is another kind of pollution that is far Read More…
Decapitators on the Prowl!
The incursion of terrorists from the northern states to the southwest of Nigeria was all too predictable. We had warned about that possibility over the years. The crisis is not from lack of warnings but from the failure to convert warnings into interoperable, cross-border security. There has been a steady expansion from border belts into Read More…